“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right” – Henry Ford
Success or failure can quite literally boil down to confidence. So, are you born with self-confidence or is it a result of environment?
Research by academics a few years ago revealed self-confidence could all be in the genes, finding that children with a greater self-belief, but a lower IQ than their less confident, but smarter peers, actually performed better under pressure.
But that doesn’t mean if you don’t have confidence in your own ability, you’re destined for failure. Far from it.
Any lacking skills can always be learnt, and confidence is just another skill.
The best place to start to build confidence from is acknowledgement. Acknowledge the problem and realise you need to find a solution.
And there are solutions abound for growing confidence: start with baby steps and lay the foundations for self-belief, then build your confidence up via a series of small wins.
Surround yourself with uplifting people
This isn’t so you can emulate them, pretending to be someone you’re not isn’t going to boost your self-confidence, no, merely determine who in your life lifts you up and who sends you into a downer.
Consciously choose to spend time with the uplifting people.
An important part of signing up to our Take Control Programme is the private Facebook group. It’s here where we celebrate together, cheer each other on, and support each other. We lift each other up.
Challenges don’t have to be huge, they can be as little as taking yourself out of your comfort zone by choosing a different route to work. Or trying a new food. Or taking up a new hobby. Or improving a skill you already have.
By doing something that tests you and gives you a small win, is key to boosting your confidence in your own ability.
The Take Control Programme focuses on small wins each week, where over the 12 week period your confidence in your own ability will grow.
Experiment with your new found confidence
Once you have a little belief in your ability, experiment with how far you can go. Try something you know you actively don’t like, or think you can’t do: go for a run, change your workout routine or start saying no to people and things that you haven’t been able to before. Flex those confidence muscles.
The Take Control Programme encourages each client to try new things and discover a way to exercise that challenges them but they enjoy doing.
Identify the positives
You don’t need to wake up every morning and recite a list of affirmations, but we humans have a natural tendency to look for the negative in everything. So take the time to appreciate the positives in your life.
Whether that’s a new haircut, a new exercise regime or a new diet; if you do something that has a positive impact on your life, acknowledge it and let it feed your self-confidence.
Hopefully you’ll realise that you don’t need to drastically overhaul your life to see an improvement in it, your life already has plenty of joy, it’s your mindset that needs altering.
In the Take Control Programme I call these positives bright spots. I see them as early glimmers that something is going well for you. It’s these bright spots that you can clone to improve other parts of your life.
Practice makes perfect
Finally, if you’ve ever seen someone so confident in their abilities, in whatever they’re doing, they’re practically dripping with self-belief, the chances are they’ve achieved this nirvana through practice and repetition.
The Take Control Programme focuses on practising techniques to improve your fitness and eating habits. It provides you with a structure that will build confidence in your own ability.
You’ve got this!